Monday, April 3, 2017

Becoming that which we preach: Forming and Being Fraternity within the Fraternity

Many of us in the past few weeks have seen the block buster hit movie from the top selling novel, The Shack.  And in this movie, Papa reveals to Mack how important faith in God really is.  Those of us who are members of any Secular Franciscan Fraternity realize that faith and life go hand in hand.  We are called to build up the Kingdom of God in what we do in our lives for service but also in our every day situations.  But we must remember that what we do for others also applies to what we do in building up those in our own fraternities.  For we are called to live the Gospel of Jesus every day in fraternal communion.  So what do our General Constitutions and our Rule have to say?

            Article 3 of the General Constitutions of the Secular Franciscan Order states the following:

                 1.    The secular state characterizes the spirituality and the apostolic life of those belonging to the 
                             OFS.
                     2.     Their secularity, with respect to vocation and to apostolic life, expresses itself 
                             according to the respective state, that is:
—    for the laity, contributing to building up the Kingdom of God by their presence in their life-situations and in their temporal activities;[1]
—    for the secular clergy, by offering to the people of God the service which is properly theirs, in communion with the bishop and the presbytery.[2]
        Both are inspired by the gospel options of Saint Francis of Assisi, committing     
        themselves to continue his mission with the other components of the Franciscan
        Family.
3.     The vocation to the OFS is a vocation to live the Gospel in fraternal communion.  For this purpose, the members of the OFS gather in ecclesial communities which are called fraternities.                                                                             (highlights and unlinking is my doing)

Community life for Secular Franciscans is essential.  We build community life in all that we do.  We pray together; we serve together; we study together; we rejoice together; we often grieve together; and many of us worship together.  But how do we take this to the next level.  How do we go from just being a community of Secular Franciscans to being a community that is bonded in fraternal communion?
             In the Rule of the Secular Franciscan Order it states that those who profess this life “should seek to encounter the living and active person of Christ in their brothers and sisters, in Sacred Scripture, in the Church, and in liturgical activity. The faith of St. Francis, who often said, "I see nothing bodily of the Most High Son of God in this world except His most holy body and blood," should be the inspiration and pattern of their Eucharistic life” (Ch. 2, para. 4).  We are called to be imitators of Francis who during his day was known as alter Christus.  For us this means loving those who are in our communities as Christ and Francis love us.  It means more than just doing the corporal and spiritual works of mercy with those in our community for those outside our fraternities.  It means being Christ, or being Francis for those within our Fraternity – locally, nationally, and throughout the world.  Just as Jesus and Francis were mercy for all those they met, so we become mercy for all those we meet.
           This is not an easy task.  It is one of those things that we all – including me – struggle with.  Just as in any family there are those we like more than others.  But all must be enveloped with love, with mercy, with God’s loving embrace.
           My hope for tonight’s meeting is that we can discuss becoming a fraternity that embraces all with God’s love and mercy through the following questions:
  •           How do I become God’s mercy for all those in this Fraternity?
  •           How do I leave behind those attitudes or habits that cause others to distance themselves from me in my family? In this fraternity? Some of those might be gossip, faithfulness, etc….
  •          What can I do that will help others to desire to follow Christ by following Francis?





[1]    See Can 225, and the Discourse of Pope John Paul II to the OFS, September 27, 1982 in L'Osservatore Romano, September 28, 1982.
[2]    See Can. 275 ff, Presbyterorum ordinis 12; 14; 15 ff.

Monday, March 6, 2017

A life in Formation...How do we bond with each other?

As the Director of Formation for Most Holy Name Fraternity in Little Falls, NJ very often people who are in initial formation will ask me questions like "how do I know I am in the right place," or "how do I get to know those in the fraternity?"  And what I have come to learn in my five years as a member of the Secular Franciscan community is that community is more than just the meetings that we come to attend.  It is more than just the service that we do.  As one friend put it to me, "Fraternity is all about the bonds that we create."
          She went on to say that in fraternity, "we are not just here for ourselves, but we are here for one another."  After thinking about these words, I realized just how right she actually is.  Nearly seven year ago, I began the journey of becoming a member of the OFS community.  And though I began this journey because I realized that it was a call from God for me after so many years of working for and with the Friars, I soon came to realize that I am more there for others than I am for myself.
          I became very close with one member of the group that I would be professed with nearly five and a half years ago.  Little did I know that soon she would be going on a journey that would take her home to the Father's arms to spend eternity with Jesus - the one she love more than anyone.  Many of us from the Fraternity and the parish got to journey through various parts of her journey home with her.  But I felt especially lucky (while at the same time feeling sad), because we got to share conversations and times of silence just sitting and being ... which drew us closer to one another and closer to God - Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
          Following her death in my grieving process, I had times that I just did not desire to be around the community that we call fraternity.  For a good number of months, I found every reason to avoid the monthly meetings because I could not deal with my own pain and sadness. But as one friend, who is not part of the fraternity said to me, "That was rather selfish. You have always been there for one another and it is not all about you.  Did you ever think that you were being called to help others deal with their grief as well?"
          I had to admit that I did not think that way.  What I realized is that even as Director of Formation for my fraternity God has a lot of forming yet to do in me.  We are here not just for ourselves but as St. Paul writes in Ephesians (4:11-15):

          "And he gave some as apostles, others as prophets, others as evangelists, others as    
           pastors and teachers, to equip the holy ones for the work of ministry, for building up 
           God, to mature manhood, to the extent of the full stature of Christ, so that we may no 
We are here for one another -- each of us with different gifts for different purposes -- to build up that body of Christ to make us strong to do the work of the Kingdom of God.  Sometimes this is in service to one another, sometimes it is in service to the poor, the homeless, the young, sometimes it is going out for a meal with our fraternity members, or a movie.  Whatever way we are called to build up the body is what Christ asks us to do.

So now I have some questions for thought.  Please feel free to leave a comment or two that builds up the body to make us strong in Christ and in fraternity/community.  Please keep it positive.

  1. How, when, and where do we bond with other members of our fraternities?
  2. Do we do this often enough outside of the standard meetings?
  3. How do we welcome new members in formation and get to know them?
  4. Is fraternity about what I need or for the wider Body of Christ?